Case Entry #4: Iโ€™m the Grandmother. I Was Treated Like Furniture

31/05/2025

Submitted anonymously by a maternal grandmother.

๐Ÿง“ They Treated Me Like I Wasn't There

๐Ÿง“ They Treated Me Like I Wasn't There

Every meeting. Every contact. Every call.

They ignored me because I wasn't the "main carer."

But I saw everything. And I have receipts.

๐Ÿ’ท I Spent Hundreds on My Grandchild. They Never Mentioned It.

๐Ÿ’ท I Spent Hundreds on My Grandchild. They Never Mentioned It.

  • Toys

  • Clothes

  • Bath seats

  • Formula

Toys

Clothes

Bath seats

Formula

Every penny was mine. I kept the receipts. Still, they said I didn't contribute.

๐Ÿ’ฌ I Spoke Calmly. They Called It Defensive.

๐Ÿ’ฌ I Spoke Calmly. They Called It Defensive.

I questioned them once.

They said I was "hostile."

They don't want questions.

They want obedience.

๐Ÿ‘ฉโ€๐Ÿ‘งโ€๐Ÿ‘ฆ I've Seen My Daughter Be a Good Mother

๐Ÿ‘ฉโ€๐Ÿ‘งโ€๐Ÿ‘ฆ I've Seen My Daughter Be a Good Mother

She fed him. Calmed him. Sang to him.

I've seen her hold him while the staff pretended not to watch.

That's love โ€” not dysfunction.

๐Ÿงพ They Take Notes. But They Don't See.

๐Ÿงพ They Take Notes. But They Don't See.

They didn't see me wake up early to help.

They didn't see me cook dinner for three because they couldn't afford groceries.

But the one time I raised my voice? That made it into the file.

๐Ÿง“ Final Words

๐Ÿง“ Final Words

I'm a grandmother.

Not a threat.

Not a risk.

Not invisible.

You don't need to like me.

But you will not ignore me.