Case Entry #4: I’m the Grandmother. I Was Treated Like Furniture
Submitted anonymously by a maternal grandmother.
🧓 They Treated Me Like I Wasn't There
🧓 They Treated Me Like I Wasn't There
Every meeting. Every contact. Every call.
They ignored me because I wasn't the "main carer."
But I saw everything. And I have receipts.
💷 I Spent Hundreds on My Grandchild. They Never Mentioned It.
💷 I Spent Hundreds on My Grandchild. They Never Mentioned It.
Toys
Clothes
Bath seats
Formula
Toys
Clothes
Bath seats
Formula
Every penny was mine. I kept the receipts. Still, they said I didn't contribute.
💬 I Spoke Calmly. They Called It Defensive.
💬 I Spoke Calmly. They Called It Defensive.
I questioned them once.
They said I was "hostile."
They don't want questions.
They want obedience.
👩👧👦 I've Seen My Daughter Be a Good Mother
👩👧👦 I've Seen My Daughter Be a Good Mother
She fed him. Calmed him. Sang to him.
I've seen her hold him while the staff pretended not to watch.
That's love — not dysfunction.
🧾 They Take Notes. But They Don't See.
🧾 They Take Notes. But They Don't See.
They didn't see me wake up early to help.
They didn't see me cook dinner for three because they couldn't afford groceries.
But the one time I raised my voice? That made it into the file.
🧓 Final Words
🧓 Final Words
I'm a grandmother.
Not a threat.
Not a risk.
Not invisible.
You don't need to like me.
But you will not ignore me.