Case Entry #6: I’m a Foster Carer — And I’ve Seen the Truth They Don’t Write Down

31/05/2025

Submitted anonymously by a foster carer.

🏠 I've Had Children Placed With Me Who Never Should've Been Taken

🏠 I've Had Children Placed With Me Who Never Should've Been Taken

The files say "neglect."

But the kids say "Mum made me toast every morning."

🗂️ The Files Never Match the Kids

🗂️ The Files Never Match the Kids

The child cries for their mother.

Draws her in every picture.

Still — the file says "insecure attachment."

🔇 I'm Told Not to Ask Questions

🔇 I'm Told Not to Ask Questions

I asked once why a child's contact was cut.

They told me, "That's not your role."

🧍‍♀️ One Mother I'll Never Forget

🧍‍♀️ One Mother I'll Never Forget

She came to every visit.

Sang to her child.

Brought clothes.

Cried in the car park after.

They wrote: "Detached."

🧾 Foster Carers Get Paid. Parents Get Judged.

🧾 Foster Carers Get Paid. Parents Get Judged.

We get support.

They get suspicion.

❓ The Question I Can't Unask

❓ The Question I Can't Unask

If she had the help I got — would her child even be in care?

🧱 Final Thoughts

🧱 Final Thoughts

Not all of us are blind.

Some of us see you.

And we believe you.